In this final March newsletter, I’m sharing the most valuable insights from my 10-year self-investment journey—principles that will save you significant time and money while creating profound transformations in your life.
As someone who guides and coaches others, I believe continuous self-investment is both healthy and essential. I’ve invested thousands of hours in training, questioning myself, self-observation, and surrounding myself with the right people—hundreds of hours in coaching programs, events, therapy, and mentoring… and I’m still investing in myself !
The Principles That Created the Most Breakthroughs and Quantum Leaps
Note: I’m sharing the synthesis of these principles. This doesn’t replace personalized work and the depth that comes from working through them individually…
1. Learn to Live With Your Problems, Not Just Solve Them
While self-improvement is essential, we can easily fall into an endless loop of problem-hunting, moving from one trauma to the next without ever escaping. Not everything will be resolved, but we can learn to suffer less from our issues or prevent them from holding us back.
There’s a crucial boundary between healthy introspection and continuously digging a hole of problems you never climb out of. Live with your wounds without allowing them to become toxic to yourself and those around you.
2. The Right Questions Liberate You More Than Answers
It’s frustrating but true! I traveled the world seeking answers, and at every turn, I was asked more questions. Eventually, I understood that these questions were allowing me to find the answers within myself.
The best coaches, mentors, and therapists who helped me asked the most powerful questions possible. I’ve found that directed questions unlock more progress than years of conventional searching. Asking the RIGHT questions changes everything.
3. External Noise Disrupts Your Internal Compass
Others’ opinions, social pressure, and comparisons obscure our true direction. Cutting through this noise is essential to hear our inner voice.
We enter an endless race without taking time to listen to ourselves! Setting aside time for yourself, asking the right questions, and simply being still is crucial.
The more we know ourselves, the more we gain confidence, groundedness, and stability during storms when we might become easily influenced. Self-knowledge remains the ultimate key—a lifelong process.
4. Your Inner Child Is Both Your Worst Enemy and Greatest Ally
The child within us can bring out insecurities at any moment, but they’re also our best guide! They reveal what we need to work on and which direction to take.
When I listen to my “child’s soul,” I always make the right decisions, as it seeks joy and fulfillment.
5. There Is No “Best Model” Except…
When seeking optimal strategies, we tend to want to model others. We’re bombarded with today’s “best approaches”!
Yet what works for others isn’t necessarily right for you.
This is why I never connected with those who tried to fit me into their model or vision—I prefer those who take interest in my profile and design with me. It’s also why I respect my clients’ unique functioning and personality when coaching them.
Hence the importance of testing, experimenting, and finding what works for YOU! Always listen to people genuinely interested in you, not those wanting you to over-adapt.
The best model starts with you—whether in organization, strategy, career, etc.
6. The Best Response to Anxiety and Fears
For a long time, I had an anxious disposition with a mind that never stopped creating catastrophic scenarios that never materialized.
I learned two responses: return to the present moment (breathing, meditation) and truly learn detachment and letting go.
While there may be deep-rooted causes to work on long-term, we can quickly reduce symptoms by learning to recenter and focus on what we control. Exit rumination, take action, move forward, refocus, and let go.
7. People Don’t Care About You as Much as You Think!
Often, my fear of failure, anxiety, and insecurities were linked to others’ perceptions and the fear of disappointing or being seen as a loser.
Good news: The spotlight effect exists only in our heads! We overestimate what others think of us and the importance they give it.
No one judges you as much as you think. Others are too busy worrying about their own image. The potential we gain by detaching from this prison of others’ judgments is immense.
8. Changing Your Beliefs Changes Your Reality
The most powerful lever I’ve discovered is interrupting habitual thought patterns. This is why elite mastermind groups and advanced mentors are so effective.
We all have our biases, limitations, growth edges, and blind spots—about money, time, society, business, relationships, and our self-perception.
Each quantum leap represents a change in thinking mode and state.
9. The Most Important Insight
For a long time, I believed that to progress, I needed to do more:
- More strategy
- More organization
- More discipline
The greatest lesson? It’s not what we do that changes everything. It’s the inner clarity with which we do it.
Intention, energy, mindset > The act itself: that’s what makes the difference!
10. Simplicity Above All
I’ve learned to:
- ❓ Ask the real questions
- 🧭 Differentiate intuition from ego
- 😨 Hear fear without letting it decide
- 🌊 Feel when I’m in flow… or in flight
And above all: KEEP IT SIMPLE, KEEP IT SIMPLE, KEEP IT SIMPLE!
Today, I realize that structured introspection is one of the most powerful gifts we can give ourselves. Not the kind that goes in circles, but the kind that illuminates, aligns, and recenters.
Because sometimes, the next step doesn’t require more productivity. It requires more truth.
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